Friday, October 31, 2008

anger management (?)



GALIT - anger, damnation, hatred, adj. hostile, indignation, adj. irate, ire, adj. mad, rage, rancor, resentment, vexation, wrath.


[uhmm, what the hell is anger?]


[FOR ME?]


Anger is a complex motion. We are often frightened by our anger when we let out in destructive ways. On the other hand, we can also feel the effects of holding in our anger. Like an upset stomach, pressure , headaches (*like the feeling of a blasting brain,damn).

Finding a proper balance and expressing our anger constructively are important but difficult emotional tasks. Duh, we are not born with an instinctive knowledge of how to focus on it or use it for our benefit or what. That is something that must be learned.

[BASED ON FACTS]


Anger Photobucket is part of the fight/flight brain response to the perceived threat of pain. When a person makes the cognitive choice to take action to immediately stop the threatening/painful behavior of another (person or organization, or any outside force) anger (as opposed to fear) becomes the predominant feeling, with behavioral, cognitive and physiological correlates.


[anger! anger!]

To feel anger is neither good or bad. It is what we do with our anger, how we act when we are angry is so important. For example when we lash out in anger, later we may feel worse in remorse. However, when we discuss our hurt when someone who is understanding, we may feel better. And talking with the person who caused the hurt in the first place may create a stronger bond between you and that person.

It is difficult to a teenager like me to make the distinction between the emotion of anger and what is done with that anger. To a teenager, they are one and the same. Nevertheless, a teenager needs to learn the difference between the two.

We can control ourselves that we can feel angry and express our blames , yet not be destructive. In other words, it is O.K. to be angry, but it is not O.K. to behave in a destructive manner out of anger.

It is very important to make this distinction with yourself. We should not be chastised for feeling angry, only for destructive behavior. Eventually, we will learn the difference between feeling angry and acting out anger in harmful ways.


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This is an old post from my former blog --> http://route21oneway.blogspot.com (*i'm sooo.. lazy that's why i posted this thing again lol XD).

I remember the time when I felt the most intense anger that I ever had before. My friends are concerned in that conflict so that's why I'm so angry about that sh*t person who started it. We even fought with offensvie words (*haha, but not the PIM thing). Kahit sa gm!. I hated him so much at that time (*kasi at that time, napaka-defensive niya sa sarili niya). He even insisted that we're the one who is wrong (*kahit naman obvious na sa bunganga niya galing lahat ng kasinungalingan). Until he realized that he's the real crap, nag sorry naman siya and I accepted it (*and now we're even friends haha). I also said sorry because actually, me kasalanan rin ako, ayt?. I lashed out mean words at him and that's really bad.

Super panget talaga ng feeling ng nagagalit. Imagine, I didn't sleep dahil sa kakaputak sa kanya (*haha). However, it feels great to handle that kind of situation. It's a way for me to know if I'm matured enough to be engaged in that kind of conflicts and of course, to get through with it.

Don't be carried away by your anger.
Para sakin, mas magandang maging masaya Photobucket

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Thursday, October 30, 2008

i ♥ franklin



[my status]
missing franklin a lot!

[franklin]
I really miss you very much. Haha, trip ko lang gumawa ng t-shirt. I really miss you so much, I really miss you so much, I really miss you so much and I love you a lot.

According to what are printed on the t-shirt:
  • makulit
  • pasaway
  • CUTE
  • matigas ang ulo!
  • hot
  • responsible
  • we rock
  • walang iwanan!!!
  • astig
  • #1
  • sosyal...at sosyal ulit (*haha)
Di naman ako nagsisinungaling diba? (*maliban lang ata sa responsible? haha, sinama ko na, wala na kong ma-isip eh ,lol). I always feel calm and happy whenever I'm with you franklin. I hope our distance will never interfere our bonds. Mga pasaway!!!, I miss you a lot Photobucket

--luch Ü

Wednesday, October 29, 2008

maling akala (get rid of it!)



[thuu story]

"A woman suspects her husband is cheating on her. One day, she dials her home and was answered by unknown voice. The woman asked, "Who is this?".

"This is the maid," answers the voice on the other line. "We don't have a maid!," says the woman. The maid says, "I was hired this morning by the man of the house. The woman says, "Well, this is her wife. Is he there?"

The maid replies ,"He is upstairs in the bedroom with someone who I figured was his wife". The woman is fuming. She told the maid, "Listen, would you like a P500,000 be in your hand?". The maid says, "What will I have to do?". The woman tells her, "I want you to get my gun from my desk and shoot the jerk and the witch he's with!!!".

The maid puts the phone down, the woman hears footsteps and gunshots. The maid comes back to the phone and asks, "What do I do with the bodies?". The woman says "Throw them in the swimming pool!!". Puzzled, the maid answers "But there's no pool here".


A LONG PAUSE AND THE WOMAN ASKS "IS THIS 832-4821?"


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[thuu lesson?]

Do not make decisions nor accuse a person at the height of your emotions and specially, "don't be judgmental" (*wag kang humusga kaagad agad ng isang tao).

[for myself?]

I want to be less judgmental, but at the same time, I know it’s not realistic to try to completely stop judging people. In my opinion, it’s an instinct. But what I can do is keep an open mind and always try to find something good about each person.

I always challenge myself to be less judgmental. When i catch myself doing it, I ask myself why I would jump to such a conclusion. what has made me biased in this way?
I actually feel a lot better since I’ve been working on it. Being more accepting of others helps you be more accepting of yourself. There is definitely a strong connection between them and i also think less judgmental people are more intelligent *sigh*. They see things with open minds. they don’t leave any option out. they find truth. This is kind of ironic seeing as judgmental people usually think they know everything :). Ayokong humusga ng isang tao basta basta lamang without any basis. Judging a person is wrong (*definitely mali!)

[for the backstabbers]

Back-off losers!. Don't say mean things at the back of a person at (*worst) lalo na kung hindi mo siya talaga kilala. Try putting yourself in his/her shoes. It's so hard to be backstabbed and accused by lots of people. It hurts the person a lot. With every atrocious words that you throw at that person, you are also slowly ruining that person's positive outlook in life and self-confidence (*at napaka insensitive mo!). Try to know the person more before judging. Judging without any basis is a crap. If you're a human enough (*or a wise animal though lol XD), you know what I mean, right?. So don't be judgemental. Be an open-minded person. Don't be so stupid.

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I hope you like the story. Natutuwa talaga ako nung nabasa ko. "Don't be judgmental", that's the best lesson that I think I can get from it.

Wag magpadala sa maling akala, it can lead you to awful situations.Photobucket

--luch Ü

who am i?

I am outgoing, understanding and happy.
I think I'm inlove (weeeee^^).
I know what I want.
I want Ikuta Toma!!!.
I have a sense of humor^^.
I wish I can witness a miracle someday.
I feel happy to have a complete family.
I love my friends so much.
I hate nasty backstabbers, false publicity, liar and waking up early!.
I fear that someone would die in front of me .
I hear my mom's voice from the kitchen, making up some conversation with my sis.
I search for 'true' friends.
I regret not being able to follow my mom often.
I always crave for Ikuta toma, chocolates, milk shake and plato wraps^^(*hungry)
I always listen to music, everyday.
I never smoke nor drink hard liquor. Bad for the health.
I am not PUNCTUAL.
I cannot hang out all by myself, I always want company.
I fight back when I'm provoked.
I confuse myself sometimes.
I need to see Ikuta Toma^^, urgent!.
I dance hip-hop or any modern dance.
I sing in the bathroom or if there's no one around & not in public, singing in public scares me...a lot.
I cry when I am in a deep problem or if I am carried away with my heart.
I should be humble all the time.
I am happy if I'm with my love ones.
I am currently making a post on my blog^^.


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actually, this is an old post from my former blog http://route21oneway.blogspot.com. I just posted this for you to know some things 'bout me (o yes, to know me a lil' bit ^^). nice to meet you, salamat sa pagbabasa. *hugs*

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welcome to a newbie blog :)


(*tenen!!!*)




WELCOME TO MY NEW BLOG :)

http://theprettywasted.blogspot.com






Hya! this is my new blog. Actually, I just moved from my old blog --> http://route21oneway.blogspot.com/ . I hope you'll like this one. I'll update more if I have time, I'm kinda 'busy' (lol XD) for school.

By the way, thanks for visiting. *hugs* Photobucket

--luch Ü
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